Maculate Conception

by Starburns Audio, Abbe Feder, Isaac Feder,

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Now in their third year of In-Vitro Fertilization treatment, we documented Abbe and Isaac's experience so listeners can hear first-hand the intimate struggles of a couple experiencing infertility. They share their hopes, dreams, doctors appointments, and late-night fights and reveal an up-close, personal, and sometimes funny look at a couple longing to become parents in real time. Abbe and Isaac Feder met in the summer of 2008. For Isaac, it was love at first sight. Eventually, Abbe got on board. They were engaged a year later, and got married because of their love for one another, and also because they wanted to have children. After hearing stories from friends: warnings from their own bumps along the road, and trying to be as supportive as possible, they felt sure this was not one going to be their story. As it turns out, their story became extremely complicated.ABBE MERYL FEDER is a writer, producer, and actress in Los Angeles. She’s an Artist in Residence at the Braid Theater in Santa Monica. Her struggle with infertility led to co-founding InCircle Fertility, a coaching business helping people navigate infertility. She is also a stylist, and is a recurring contributor to the blog What’s Up Moms. You can find her on social media at @absofstyle (instagram). She grew up on the mean streets of New York’s Upper East Side, graduated from the University of Wisconsin, and studied at The American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York. She is an avid mahjong and card player, an escape room enthusiast, and has been called by many friends a true “balabusta.” ISAAC FEDER is a film director and television showrunner. Recent projects include series for Netflix, Sony Pictures Television, Disney+, Amazon, and Fuse. He has directed shows for Comedy Central, VICELAND, Tru, YouTube Originals, and IFC, and has worked with Sacha Baron Cohen, Robert Smigel, Nikki Glaser, Ken Jeong, and Haley Joel Osment. His first feature film, the scripted comedy Sex Ed, won the Grand Jury Prize for Best Narrative Feature Film at the Portland Film Festival. His short film produced for ESPN’s “30 for 30” series, AC Green: Iron Virgin, was an official selection at the TriBeCa Film Festival. He is a graduate of Northwestern University, and holds an MFA from the American Film Institute Conservatory. Isaac was born and raised in Chicago, and now lives in Los Angeles.

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mvpikaart

Thank you for talking about this

I am not a parent , nor have I gone through this process, but I have had friends a family members who have, and it has always been a learning experience for me to learn about all stages of the birthing process. It is soo important to talk about this , thank you for being honest , sharing your tender moments, and offer up your most venerable moments. I appreciate you both and your journey.
oakhh3

Oooooooooh

I mean I just can’t with this woman. My husband and I have struggled with infertility and totally understand the stress and trauma of IVF and multiple miscarriages. But this woman is a narcissistic, whiny, princess. It’s all about HER and her struggle. I feel so bad for her husband. She’s mean to him. Poor guy is probably afraid of her. I have a hard time empathizing with her. It’s almost like she likes being a victim. I was done with her when she failed to acknowledge presence of her friends’ kids because of what SHE was going through. I thinks she’s a miserable person.
Gracefourme

Come back!

I keep checking and hoping for new episodes. I know it has to be such a difficult thing to share this journey in real time. Until you’ve undergone IVF and walked a mile in their shoes you can’t possibly understand and should not judge them. Sending prayers and love to you both!
lizziephotog

I wish this would come back

I was riveted. I wish they’d come back.
chairjosephman

Self absorbed white privilege couple

All this couple does is complain, the woman thinks she is witty and funny (spoiler: she’s not), and her husband sings her praises for existing (most likely so she won’t yell at him). They get mad at their friends and family for asking them if they’re going to have kids (because “it is disrespectful”) but also get mad if they see them “a year later at the Synagogue and ask how are you?” (“because you see I’m not pregnant now so how do you think I feel?!”). These people are insufferable and so entitled. They complain about how IVF is so unnatural and how everything is so wrong with Healthcare, then stop doing all the procedures and stop whining! No one is forcing you to.
AliEbbs

An Intimidate journey

Excellent listen for those who have not gone through the trials and challenges of conceiving a child. An heart opening experience- I just want to hear more and I am stuck at the end of 6 ... I carried this cast with me and could not put it down. Thank you for your honesty, your vulnerability and your trust.
Marnie93065

Where’s the ending?

I just listened to all the episodes. Are they making more or are we just left hanging? Total waste of time
Tammy Mancha Gilbert

Thank you

We’ve been going through IVF treatment and I’ve had all this questions, doubts, fears and any other emotion possible. It’s helpful to hear your story because it really did validate a lot of the same things we have experienced and I realize we’re not alone. Thank you for sharing and I hope you are able to get pregnant soon!
Kfd726

Great listen

I really enjoyed this podcast. I wonder how many of the negative reviewers, saying they are selfish and should just adopt, have struggled with infertility or adopted a child of their own. I’m going to guess none. 🙄
Gabrielle Baggett

Honest and Real

Thank you so much to the Feders! This podcast is so honest and intimate of their journey through IVF and gave me so much courage as we journey through TTC. The strength they show as a couple to journey through every IUI, transfer, etc is just remarkable. Can’t wait for season 2!
VidaIbrahim

Takes you through their emotional rollacoaster

I could finally identify with someone else going through what I was going through. So so sad there are no more episodes. Although it’s for the happiest reason in the word!! So happy for you both, congrats!! Hopefully you’ll put on another series about pregnancy and one about newborns. You two are the reason I want to hear your story. Thank you for your transparency. I know it’s hard but I would very much appreciate it.!!
serendoopity

Self Before All Others

I’ve never felt compelled to write a negative review before. But this is so disappointing, so myopic, everything that’s wrong with contemporary American culture. All the resources, all the beautiful children that need parents and don’t have them... and you make this podcast?
DrLMH

Beautifully done

So brave and raw. Would love an update from Abbe and Isaac!
marigrrl57

Open and honest

As a two-time surrogate this podcast gives me a better understanding of the struggles of infertility. The whole entire process of IVF can be so brutal to a marriage but listening to Abbie and Issac and the love they have for each other is beautiful. They are open and honest and filled with hope. I pray that doesn’t stop for them. Know that someone in Livermore, Ca is praying for you both!
Lilyh21

Awareness is needed

Thank you for sharing your story in such a raw and honest way. No one will truly understand infertility until they go through it, but this helps those who may not get it yet, and offers camaraderie to those who know the highs and lows and the insufferable losses. From the outside it seems like an extreme gambling addiction where you willingly know you’ll lose tens of thousands of dollars at the outset. “Why not just take a kid who doesn’t have a home and adopt them?” ask (hopefully) well meaning people who haven’t spent five minutes researching the costs, risks, and turmoil of the adoption process: it’s not unlike IVF, and no, a child isn’t guaranteed. We don’t have orphanages or “homes for unwed mothers” anymore, it’s not 1955, and it’s unbearably complex. In fact you’ll fail to qualify to be an adoptive parent for myriad reasons including the whims of teens or scammy agencies. Not to mention the biological and religious, legal, philosophical and psychological reasons that could contraindicate adoption. But I digress. I’ve been there too. I’ve lost money, embryos, had multiple miscarriages. I’m still not where I’d like to be at 36 years old and unlikely to ever quite get there. But after so many years I do believe that the ones who never give up get their baby- whether thru IVF, donors, surrogates, or yes, adoption, and I know you two will never give up. 💗 Love and hope, Lily
LisaRut

These people are insufferable

They do not recognize privilege and how awful they present themselves. I wanted to feel empathy for them. But I cannot.
KarenM NJ

Two narcissists that wish they were famous

This is the most narcissistic couple I have ever encountered. Apparently, no one will be better parents than them and they deserve it more than other people. And you really don’t want to be friends with them because there really isn’t anything you could say or do that would be correct. The judgement is thick with these two and because they have chosen a career in the “arts” they are also better than you. Gross.
stacilou15

I love you Abbe and Issac

This podcast has made me feel so much. Thank you for sharing your heartache with us. You guys do a very good job and explaining the process and humanizing it. I also love your spiritual journey. Thanks for being so lovely and honest.
BlueStateChick

Privilege over Perspective

I found this quite hard to listen to. It felt a bit whiney, VERY entitled, and both the mis-use and overuse of the term “PTSD” by non medical professionals a bit dangerous.
Ngbarnes

Appreciate

So appreciate the candor, vulnerability and obvious love. I am hopeful for you....very hopeful.
Jggrier00722

Blessings to the Isaac and Abbe

I happened upon this podcast by accident, but believe that maybe it wasn’t an accident. I found myself re-living our IVF (20 years ago now) experience, and I said/felt the same things that Abbe has. In a weird way, I find that comforting, or rather, I feel validated. I just wanted to be someone’s mom. It wasn’t “meant to be” for us, but I am SO hoping it is meant to be for Isaac and Abbe.
JPelan

This is a good one

Being a former fertility patient, your heart breaks for them and you relive the emotional roller coaster. It is honest and real, kudos to them for opening the wound to all. I pray for positive news for them.
Lily D. 2018

Beautiful and heartbreaking

Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing the intimate details of what it is like to struggle with infertility. Yes it’s true there are other options but when you dream of having children your whole life facing infertility is devastating. I understand the reasons why you want to “keep going”. I would definitely recommend this podcast.
Sarahelaine720

Good podcast, with one minor annoyance

This is a good podcast, hard to stop listening to, sad, authentic and I wish them all the best. My only problem is how they keep using the term PTSD, repeatedly, when describing this process of IVF. I know it’s the “new thing” to say, like OCD used to be, but it really is offensive. They seem like very respectful sensitive people so I’m surprised they’re using this term in such a cavalier fashion. That being said, it’s just a minor criticism, this podcast is great.
EER00

You won’t be able to put it down!

Started listening and then couldn’t stop. The story is so painful but also so authentic, messy and real. I loved the banter between Abbe and Isaac, again such a true depiction of the emotional non-sequiturs of IVF. Thank you both for your courage to share this very personal journey with the world!
neverett36

I like this story... but...

I really like these people and I really appreciate the rawness of what they are going through. That being said at a certain point other options should be looked at. Sometimes life isn’t fair, sometimes you don’t get exactly what you want. There are so many children and babies that don’t have a home to go to. The stress you are putting your body, your marriage, and your wallet through seems intense. Seems like you’re going to be in so much crippling debt by the end of it. What kind of a life is that?
rot bot

Raw, honest, important work

The candor in this podcast is intoxicating. As is the rapport between Abbe + Isaac. This is a must listen if you or anyone you know has struggled with infertility. And even if you haven't, it will better equip you to support those you love who are struggling with things that are taboo.
ayala920

Here come the tears

Abbe and Isaac are open and raw and honest about their infertility journey in ways I haven’t heard before. Thank you so much for sharing parts of your journey with the world.
Oksjdidhshdjdi

Sooo bad

There are so many kids in the world waiting to be adopted- this is the story of a couple who feel sad because they keep sinking thousands of dollars into procedures because they “deserve to be parents.” 🤔🙄
aph9513

Thank you!

I love that you guys are sharing your journey in such a modern and personal way. I’m rooting for you guys with every episode!
Linds628

Totally Relatable

I love this podcast! It makes me feel so much better to hear that someone else thinks all of the things that I have thought through this process.
Cirrus5136

Irritating and arrogant

This is a story of a couple who thinks that life should be fair, and when it’s not they show their American and entitled arrogance about it all. Besides their whining you’ll hear a lot of nose whistles from the husband as he breathes irritability into the microphone.
KRL14

Beautifully done

Compelling and beautifully produced, this podcast hooked me immediately. I imagine it will be fascinating for those unfamiliar with infertility treatment, and a lifeline to those that are going through it.
Chelsea London Lloyd

Amazing podcast

I absolutely love this podcast. Abbe and Isaac are brave, vulnerable, and heroic to share their story! Clearly this taboo topic needs to be addressed more often and openly...I find this extremely insightful! So thankful they are willing to share with others and I wish them the best!
Savy Belle

Wonderful and so truthful.

I love this couple and they seem like such fun people. I want to be their best friends! I love their story and can’t wait to see how it all comes together.
llizzzziebethh

Bringing light to important issue

This issue is often kept private and people suffer alone. Much appreciation to these podcasters who share their story.
amanda2796

Blessings..

Like other listeners the introduction to your podcast already brought me to tears. I am 22 years old and 31 weeks pregnant. A knocked up situation not the young Jewish mom thing haha! My pregnancy was not received with all this love initially and all I could think about that made me go beyond that was how many people dream of this moment and how blessed I was to be in the middle of it. With that in mind.. we sometimes have life plans about how things should happen and they don’t go that way. I feel that God tests our faith in that way too. So with that in mind I want to send you pregnant lady blessings .. if I could touch your belly I would (creepy?).. May your heart open up to accept that God is bigger than tests and money and impossibilities. May your womb open up and may you hold that baby to the very last day and meet the other little love of your lives. Caleb Asher and I hope to hear of your blessing soon soon! Much love.
CarolynFaye*

Thank you

Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️
Tad 11

Amazing

Inspiring story from two incredible people !
jaessk

Next episode please!

I found out this year that I have PCOS. I'm not TTC for now.. but I'm so scared I won't be able to have babies. Hearing your journey so far is saddening but also quite calming because you seem to be handling it like such troopers!
katenwc

Perfect Timing

So happy to have found this podcast. Going through the same situation at the moment and it’s amazing to listen and be so emotionally invested almost instantly.
claireeee!

Finally something I can relate to

My husband and I are in the IVF process and trying to decide if she should start the process. We have checked everything out and this is our only option at conceiving. It’s comforting to hear someone else’s journey and struggle. Thank you for documenting this part of your lives and sharing....you’ve given me hope to having my baby. Thank you!
USofAnderson1

Beautiful and Beautifully Honest

They shed their skins. I can't wait to follow this journey. Couregous for sure!
Alipep

Must listen

Courageous story about infertility
KDClosangeles

Everyone Should Listen To Maculate Conception

Abbe and Isaac are gifted story tellers who let us in on their incredibly personal fertility journey that will have you laughing and crying throughout the podcast. They are an open hearted, relatable, and hilarious couple you will just want to listen to and be friends with! I love this podcast and think you will, too.
IlanG.

Great Show!

A touching, honest and heart-felt podcast about a couple's struggles with infertility. Looking forward to following their journey.
Ace of Lucia

We’re lucky to have this show

You know those shows that people say take a few episodes before you are hooked? This is NOT that show — I was so invested in this story and so obsessed with this honest, funny, REAL couple from episode 1. The world is LUCKY to have Abbe and Isaac share their story with such heart, poignancy, and truth — the painful and the joyful. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to have kids, is trying to have kids, or has been lucky enough to have kids.
2018Nickname

Love and honesty

The love and honesty they express in their story is captivating. Looking forward to hearing the whole journey and the results.
cskehan10

Amazing

Take a listen! Looking forward to hearing more!!!!
DivaGirlDail

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!!!

This is so straight from the heart! Can't wait to hear more!!!!

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